The fifth distinction:

Self-fulfilling relationships – With significant Others

Significant others defined

Anyone in your life with whom you live, work, or frequently need to see in order to fulfil your life’s duties & responsibilities, is a significant other  and a person to whom, you owe it to yourself, to relate to productively, every time you engage with one another.

And this above all:

Never forget that you yourself are the first, foremost and most important ‘significant other’ of all.  Unless you are truly self loving, highly self respectful and aware of your own spiritual, emotional and physical needs (and ensuring they’re being addressed), it will be quite impossible for you to be truly respectful and appreciative of others.

What is a self-fulfilling relationship?

A self-fulfilling relationship goes far beyond one that is merely ‘fulfilling’.

A self-fulfilling relationship is one in which each person’s sense of self is enriched every time they interact or engage with one another. These encounters are not merely Pollyanna-type exchanges, massaging each other’s egos, avoiding conflict & fundamental differences of viewpoints & opinions, always resulting in unanimous agreements and the avoidance of the risk of any “unfriendliness”. Far from it! They are honest, straight forward exchanges focussed on the bear realities of the issues with the sole objective of reaching a mutually acceptable solution, embracing any conflict that arises, along the way

A destructive virus

As William Wrigley said, “When two people in business always agree, one of them is unnecessary.”  And Shakespeare’s “Sweet are the uses of adversity, which like the toad ugly and venomous, wears yet a precious jewel in his head”.   Peace, when it is the product of a fear of conflict, is a treacherous phenomenon; like a destructive virus silently corrupting your computer programmes!

Hallmark of a truly high achiever

A hallmark of every true aspirant of high achievement today, is a strong commitment to the crucial need to strengthen the relationship he or she has, with every single, “significant other” in his or her life, starting of course, with one’s self & close family members and working outwards from there to each and every significant other person in one’s life and this will of course include strangers you may need to get to know, for example, some one with whom you would like to do business.

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